20 years on from the last day my mum was alive. ……
On monday 19th May my mother in law was discharged following a stay in hospital. My husband said to bump “nanny is home now you can come out whever you are ready.
Tuesday 20th May i woke up at the normal time, the alarm was going off and i felt the need to wee as per normal. Imanaged to get up with the usual struggle as hips were painful. My knickers felt wet, but not soaking…. as i limped to the bathroom a trickle dipped down my leg, i got to the loo and had a puddle in my knickers. I sat on the loo and went for a wee. I returned to the bedroom and told Ryan that i suspected my waters might have gone, but i wasnt sure….. i dont think i had wet myself, it didnt smell like wee and i had still done a wee on the toilet which surely if i had just wet myself i wouldnt have been able to do? I wasnt having contractions so asked ryan if he could take my son into school so i could relax but that he wasnt to worry and could go off to work just keep his phone on and dont go too far.
Ryan left on the school run at 8:30…… at 9:05 i sent him a text letting him know that i was having mild contractions that i had had 6 in the past hour. I rang midwife to come and check me over….she arrived at 9:45 and confirmed i was in labour. I had my inlaws and my dad turn up, sent father in law and my dad out to get the dogs walked. I sent Ryan a text at about 10am to let him know that i was in labour….. and he came home.
My midwife left as contrations were irregular and manageable….. however within 45 minutes Ryan was phoning her back. Contractions were less than 5 minutes apart, lasting more than a minute and i was breathing through them. I was sat on my ball watching dennis leary but the need to poo was quite intense.
I went upstairs to try and empty my bowel with no luck, but could not make it back downstairs. Midwives arrived as i was coming out of the bathroom. Ryan had set up bedroom with shower curtain on the bed, got the home birth box out and put my wise hippo birthing tracks playing through the sonos. I went into my bedroom and lay on my side on the bed with a pillow between my legs and entered into my relaxing place. Midwife examined me and i was 5-6 cm with bulging front waters, meaning that it was my hind waters which had ruptured.
I was using my tens machine and my hypnobirthing. Ryan was amazing, crouched down next to the bed in front of me, he was soothing me through my contractions, keeping me centred and allowing me to doze off between contractions.
After a while i became aware that the midwife seemed restless. She started talking about me not progressing and nothing happening and that she wanted me upright and moving around. I told her that contractions were alot more intense and that the pressure to push was there. She seemed to dismiss my comments as i “looked so relaxed”.
Fortunately Ryan was supportive of what i was saying and was able to insist that they examine me again before insisting that i wasnt progressing. They had tried to argue that normally they would not examine again until 4 hours and it had only been just after 3, but if they wanted me more mobile then they needed a reason.
Upon a further examination i was found to be 9.9 cm. Waters were still bulging like mad with every contraction. We were waiting for waters to rupture.
Josh got home from school and came running up the stairs to see me, he had expressed that he wanted to be present for the birth. The following contraction saw my waters break with a gush. They splashed everyone and spread all across the bed, 5 minutes later Nicholas Lloyd Gray entered the world at 3:45 after a 4 hr 55 minute 1st stage. Weighing 8lb 15.9oz. We are convinced he was waiting for his big brother to arrive. He wantd his full audience.
I lost more blood than was ideal but not enough to warrent a transfer luckily. I managed with no gas and air, we delayed the cord and were able to use our cord ties. Ryan cut the cord and i was able to have a natural 3rd stage in 30 minutes.
All grandparents were just downstairs so were able to come and meet him straight away with his brother and sister which was lovely. He was surrounded by so much love in the room.
I felt very lightheaded after loosing so much blood…… Ryan had to help me get in the bath later in the night.
The following 3 days i had smoothies made with the placenta.
Frozen mixed berries, banana, peanut butter ice cream, milk and several inch cubed chunks of raw placenta. Some people are grossed out by this but i honestly think it aided my recovery. I have 3 small pots with little chunks of placenta still in the freeser so that if i need a boost then i can have it.
Little Nicky has unilateral talipes as we knew, at 2 days old the referral was sent from Watford to stanmore so we are now waiting to hear from stanmore to begin treatment.
He is an absolute sweetheart, gorgeous. I cant stop looking at him. He is feeding well, a right little booby monster. In his first week he only lost 2.9oz, which the midwife was very happy with. He is currently in disposable nappies to allow me to recover and us to establish a routine before we move to cloth……
He does love the ring sling though. We have been out baby wearing a couple of times already he seems much happier being worn than he does in his pram….. and he is co sleeping. His bedside crib makes and excellant table to hold nappies, wipes, drink, breastpads etc for easy access through the night, he gets held. There is nothing like waking up to his lovely face.