People ask me, why have I removed both Alana and Josh from school. They can understand why I removed Josh given the issues with the school but don’t understand why I also allowed Alana to leave school. Well basically the answer is simple. Alana was not happy! Her confidence was notably in shreds. She was not looking after herself physically and emotionally was a mess. She was so wrapped up in the thought that she “can’t do it” that she wasn’t even trying when she could! And her attitude towards me and Josh was dreadful!
I hated school, I was bullied and the situation still affects my anxiety today, I never did a full week and dropped out altogether in yr 9…. I wasn’t home ed but even so this year I have gained my bsc hons health and social care…. While working and raising my children. I felt a hypocrite making her go in.
I felt it was unfair to allow Josh to stay at home genuinely believing I was doing the best for him yet to still make Alana go to school. What kind of mother would I be if I had done that really? I want to be the kind of mum who does what is best for her children, all of her children! And for us that is being and learning at home and spending time together.
I know I made the right decision, Alana has sparked a natural interest in the world wars and has created some wonderful poetry by her own choice. She has also mastered long division and multi digit multiplication.
Josh has redeveloped a love of learning….. as he now sees learning as different from work!
More to the point I get to spend time with my favourite people and I love it! I have booked up some holidays knowing that I don’t have to worry about term time and it’s great!
Nick has been sleeping until 9 ish so it’s great to not have to wake him up and rush him about. I imagine I will appreciate that so much more once he goes into boots and bars as who knows how much rest we will get then.
I am liking having the freedom and flexibility to respond to each of my children’s individual needs and interests and generally being the best mum that I can be.
In other news, I did get Joshs school report and the headteacher had been unable to resist writing a comment. Stating that he had several incidences with other children due to him messing around and being physical. Well that stirred up yet more anger from me. I am pushing through a formal complaint. I have written to ofsted and our local mp. I did write her a letter as well and took legal advice when doing so. I am determined to get her to acknowledge her failings and to send Josh a written apology for all he had to endure at her school.
Nick had his tenotomy on Friday. It was pretty traumatic and made that bit worse by a slipped cast on Monday. Apparently he just has the right shaped little foot that makes him high risk for slips. This was our 2nd slipped cast. So we were back to Stanmore to get it changed again. Hopefully we can just keep going and get him to the next stage….. then the challenge of boots and bars will begin.